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PostSubject: Beautiful and Wise Letter from a Father   Fri Dec 23, 2011 10:12 am

VERY WISE
Beautiful letter written by a father to his son. This applies to daughters too. Use this in your teachings to your children.



兒童心理學導師 父母的爱与关怀

梁繼璋先生是香港一位名電臺節目主持人,也是一位兒童心理學導師。
這是梁繼璋寫給兒子的信;但看後,我覺得不只給兒子,其實可以適合所有人看!

Following is a letter to his son from a renown Hong Kong TV broadcaster cum Child Psychologist. The words are actually applicable to all of us, young or old, children or parents.!


我兒: My Son
寫這備忘錄給你,基於三個原則:I am writing this to you because of 3 reasons


(一)人生福禍無常,誰也不知可以活多久,有些事情還是早一點說好
Life, fortune and mishaps are unpredictable, nobody knows how long he lives. Some words are better said early.

(二)我是你的父親,我不跟你說,沒有人會跟你說 I am your father, and if I don't tell you these, no one else will.


(三)這備忘錄裏記載的,都是我經過慘痛失敗得回來的體驗,可以為你的成長省回不少冤枉路。

What is written is my own personal bitter experiences that perhaps could save you a lot of unnecessary heartaches.

以下,便是你在人生中要好好記住的事:Remember the following as you go through life

1.對你不好的人,你不要太介意:在你一生中,沒有人有義務要對你好,除了我和你媽媽。至於那些對你好的人,你除了要珍惜、感恩外,也請多防備一點,因為,每個人做每件事,總有一個原因,他對你好,未必真的是因為喜歡你,請你必須搞清楚,而不必太快將對方看作真朋友

Do not bear grudge towards those who are not good to you. No one has the responsibility of treating you well, except your mother and I. To those who are good to you, you have to treasure it and be thankful, and ALSO you have to be cautious, because, everyone has a motive for every move. When a person is good to you, it does not mean he really likes you. You have to be careful, don't hastily regard him as a real friend.

2.沒有人是不可代替,沒有東西是必須擁有:看透了這一點,將來你身邊的人不再要你,或許失去了世間上最愛的一切時,也應該明白,這並不是甚麼大不了的事



No one is indispensable, nothing in the world that you must possess. Once you understand this idea, it would be easier for you to go through life when people around you don't want you anymore, or when you lose what/who you love most.
3.生命是短暫的,今日你還在浪費著生命,明日會發覺生命已遠離你了:因此,愈早珍惜生命,你享受生命的日子也愈多,與其盼望長壽,倒不如早點享受

Life is short. When you waste your life today, tomorrow you would find that life is leaving you. The earlier you treasure your life, the better you enjoy life.


4.世界上並沒有最愛這回事:愛情只是一種霎時的感覺,而這感覺絕對會隨時日、心境而改變。如果你的所謂最愛離開你,請耐心地等候一下,讓時日慢慢沖洗,讓心靈慢慢沉澱,你的苦就會慢慢淡化。不要過分憧憬愛情的美,不要過分誇大失戀的悲.

Love is but a transient feeling, and this feeling would fade with time and with one's mood. If your so called loved one leaves you, be patient, time will wash away your aches and sadness. Don't over exaggerate the beauty and sweetness of love, and don't over exaggerate the sadness of falling out of love.

5.雖然,很多有成就的人士都有没受過很多教育,但並不等如不用功讀書,就一定可以成功:你學到的知識,就是你擁有的武器!人,可以白手興家,但不可以手無寸鐵,緊記!

A lot of successful people did not receive a good education, that does not mean that you can be successful by not studying hard! Whatever knowledge you gain is your weapon in life. One can go from rags to riches, but one has to start from some rags!

6.我不會要求你供養我下半輩子,同樣地我也不會供養你的下半輩子,當你長大到可以獨立的時候,我的責任已經完結:以後,你要坐巴士還是Benz,吃魚翅還是粉絲,都要自己負責

I do not expect you to financially support me when I am old, neither would I financially support your whole life. My responsibility as a supporter ends when you are grown up. After that, you decide whether you want to travel in a public transport or in your limousine, whether rich or poor.

7.你可以要求自己守信,但不能要求別人守信,你可以要求自己對人好,但不能期待人家對你好:你怎樣對人,並不代表人家就會怎樣對你,如果看不透這一點,你只會徒添不必要的煩惱.

You honour your words, but don't expect others to be so. You can be good to people, but don't expect people to be good to you. If you don't understand this, you would end up with unnecessary troubles.

8.我買了十多二十年六合彩,還是一窮二白,連三獎也沒有中,這證明人要發達,還是要努力工作才可以,世界上並沒有免費午餐

I have bought lotteries for umpteen years, but I never strike any prize. That shows if you want to be rich, you have to work hard! There is no free lunch!

9.親人只有一次的緣份,無論這輩子我和你會相處多久,也請好好珍惜共聚的時光,下輩子,無論愛與不愛,都不會再見.

No matter how much time I have with you, let's treasure the time we have together. We do not know if we would meet again in our next life.


你的爸爸 梁繼璋 Your Dad

這不就是真實人生的寫照嗎?!真實不一定要現實!珍惜所擁有的!把握當下!~共勉
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PostSubject: Re: Beautiful and Wise Letter from a Father   Fri Dec 23, 2011 10:18 am

wise words indeed, sir.

but a little serious and sombre for the holiday season! santa cheers
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PostSubject: Re: Beautiful and Wise Letter from a Father   Fri Dec 23, 2011 10:35 am

Very nice. Found some words I had always wanted to 'put into words' for a friend who is going through a painful breakup.

Thanks for sharing!
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PostSubject: Re: Beautiful and Wise Letter from a Father   Fri Dec 23, 2011 10:39 am

Very thought-provoking and insightful piece.
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PostSubject: Re: Beautiful and Wise Letter from a Father   Fri Dec 23, 2011 10:41 am

golfjoy wrote:
Very nice. Found some words I had always wanted to 'put into words' for a friend who is going through a painful breakup.

Thanks for sharing!

u refering to yourself ?.....haha !!
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PostSubject: Re: Beautiful and Wise Letter from a Father   Fri Dec 23, 2011 10:42 am

ok.....I am going to read this to my kid as his bedtime story..

Thanks bro
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PostSubject: Re: Beautiful and Wise Letter from a Father   Fri Dec 23, 2011 11:08 am

Duval_S wrote:
ok.....I am going to read this to my kid as his bedtime story..

Thanks bro

My pleasure bro. Just sharing what I receive from a friend and hope this education goes round.
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PostSubject: Re: Beautiful and Wise Letter from a Father   Fri Dec 23, 2011 11:26 am

Since on this topic.... would like to include another set of words from a father.

This was picked up from internet a few mths back so some may've read this, a touching letter to his sons before he succumb to illness. I find this very meaningful and cut & paste & save it! In this harsh and pragmatic world, it serve as a reminder for me to be kind.

(PS: Apologies for adding to the sobriety (or should it be sombreness..) but let's us not forget the 'not-so' fortunate amidst our festivities! MERRY CHRISTMAS! Smile )

(PS: If you gets emotional easily, maybe can read after Christmas Razz - i got emotional when I reached the end!)

A FATHER'S RULES FOR FINDING FULFILLMENT

Be courteous, be punctual, always say please and thank you, and be sure to hold your knife and fork properly. Others take their cue on how to treat you from your manners.

Be kind, considerate and compassionate when others are in trouble, even if you have problems of your own. Others will admire your selflessness and will help you in due course.

Show moral courage. Do what is right, even if that makes you unpopular. I always thought it important to be able to look at myself in the shaving mirror every morning and not feel guilt or remorse. I depart this world with a pretty clear conscience.

Show humility. Stand your ground but pause to reflect on what the other side are saying, and back off when you know you are wrong. Never worry about losing face. That only happens when you are pig-headed.

Learn from your mistakes. You will make plenty so use them as a learning tool. If you keep making the same mistake or run into a problem, you’re doing something wrong.

Avoid disparaging someone to a third party; it is only you who will look bad. If you have a problem with someone, tell them face to face.

Hold fire! If someone crosses you, don’t react immediately. Once you say something it can never be taken back, and most people deserve a second chance.

Have fun. If this involves taking risks, so be it. If you get caught, hold your hands up.
Give to charity and help those who are less fortunate than yourselves: it’s easy and so rewarding.

Always look on the upside! The glass is half full, never half empty. Every adversity has a silver lining if you seek it out.

Make it your instinct always to say ‘yes’. Look for reasons to do something, not reasons to say no. Your friends will cherish you for that.

Be canny: you will get more of what you want if you can give someone more of what they desire. Compromise can be king.

Always accept a party invitation. You may not want to go, but they want you there. Show them courtesy and respect.

Never ever let a friend down. I would bury bodies for my friends, if they asked me to . . . which is why I have chosen them carefully.

Always tip for good service. It shows respect. But never reward poor service. Poor service is insulting.

Always treat those you meet as your social equal, whether they are above or below your station in life. For those above you, show due deference, but don’t be a sycophant.

Always respect age, as age equals wisdom.

Be prepared to put the interests of your sibling first.

Be proud of who you are and where you come from, but open your mind to other cultures and languages. When you begin to travel (as I hope you will), you’ll learn that your place in the world is both vital and insignificant. Don’t get too big for your breeches.

Be ambitious, but not nakedly so. Be prepared to back your assertions with craftsmanship and hard work.

Live every day to its full: do something that makes you smile or laugh, and avoid procrastination.

Give of your best at school. Some teachers forget that pupils need incentives. So if your teacher doesn’t give you one, devise your own.

Always pay the most you can afford. Never skimp on hotels, clothing, shoes, make-up or jewellery. But always look for a deal. You get what you pay for.

Never give up! My two little soldiers have no dad, but you are brave, big-hearted, fit and strong. You are also loved by an immensely kind and supportive team of family and friends.

You make your own good fortune, my children, so battle on.

Never feel sorry for yourself, or at least don’t do it for long. Crying doesn’t make things better.

Look after your body and it will look after you.

Learn a language, or at least try. Never engage a person abroad in conversation without first greeting them in their own language; by all means ask if they speak English!

And finally, cherish your mother, and take very good care of her.

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PostSubject: Re: Beautiful and Wise Letter from a Father   Fri Dec 23, 2011 12:19 pm

so many morally inspiring letters or teachings....

this made me start to think...how and what I can learnt fm golf...so here is what I had thought of for my son if he does play golf


" Remember your good shots...coz there are hard to come by ...so use them wisely "
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